“I can accept failure. Everyone fails at something. But I can’t accept not trying.”
Great leaders have experienced failures in their pasts, but never quit trying and never gave up. They reach the pinnacles of success by not accepting failure as an option and go on to achieve great things.
Sometimes though, no matter how hard you try, your efforts seem not to amount to anything and you feel close to failure. Most of the time you’re telling yourself self-defeating lies and other times you just need to pick yourself up and start all over again.
When you leave the ‘failure’ in the dust and begin again, you’re negating its importance and know that those efforts didn’t work – so now, it’s time to move on to something that does work. No matter where you are in your life, failure doesn’t have to be an option you think about and resign yourself to.
Wallowing in stories of “what might have been” only keep you from accomplishing what you’re capable of. Consider the following truths before you accept failure as an option in your life:
- You learn from mistakes After Scarlett O’Hara watched Rhett Butler walk away at the end of “Gone With the Wind,” she immediately started planning how to get him back. Her mantra, “Tomorrow is another day,” has been quoted throughout the years as going forward from a perceived failure toward anticipated success. Go after that second chance.
- Know that life is a balance of good and bad times Everyone experiences times in their lives when they cry, when they’ve hit bottom and when they feel on top of the world. Life seems at times to be like an opera that fills your spirit with happiness and elation and then – before Act III ends — brings it to the depths of despair. The challenge of life is to know that you’re part of the play, only you decide what role you accept.
- You’re in control No matter how difficult it is to accept the failure of something – a relationship, a job or a career path – know that you are in absolute control and that only you can choose the path you take. The reaction you choose to adversity will determine whether or not you go on to success or more failures.
- Failure isn’t the end At least it’s not the end unless you give up. You can choose to pick yourself up and begin again and summon the courage you need to get you through the bad times. Failure only means you tried and the way you tried didn’t work. Now, try something different.
- Enjoy life Even though life may have dealt you some bad hands, you’re way ahead if your needs are being met and you have hope. Enjoy what you have and go on to life’s next phase.
In life, sometimes change is necessary to get rid of the old and make way for the new. A perceived failure is only an opportunity for you to go to something better. Because of the learning experience, you’ll find that you’re stronger than you thought you were and that you can accomplish more than you thought you could.